Few weeks ago, I commented on a friend’s post saying that it’s sometimes shameful to say you’re an Arab. He showed disagreement and was really pissed off about my opinion. Honestly, that made me feel sort of diffident, I’ve never said this to a friend and got the same reaction so I had to try to prove it with at least one clear evidence.
Days passed and the proofs are increasing, if you walk in the streets of Amman (the capital of Jordan), you’d know what I certainly meant by SHAME. Anyway, my brother was fired from his work around 3 months ago because he’s a good employee and always on time with everything, yet, he didn’t take his last two salaries. Today, we went to the company to see what the last updates are and when he’ll get paid.
This company’s got a very bad reputation, they never sign contracts, you don’t get paid for overtime, late salaries and many other problems with management regardless of the fact they make lots of money. We mentioned that on the social networks where people are supposed to say whatever they feel like, I mean it’s a free space to express your opinion either it’s positive or negative. In other words, this is what we know about the company; there will probably be other individuals who have another opinion because simply everyone is entitled to an opinion dear folks.
Funnily enough, we met one of the managers today who saw our comments about the company, he was upset and frustrated, and didn’t talk much. He gave us another postponed date to get the money. Adding insult to the injury, he indirectly admitted that it was wrong to criticize the company in public.
I think this little story that was greatly exaggerated by the company is crystal clear evidence about the shame I feel like to be an Arab. We never accept criticism. Criticism exists to help us improve and pay attention to the details and small issues we don’t know about our business or maybe our behavior as individuals. Criticism is found to let us know more about how to develop our policies and serve others efficiently. In Toastmasters, I was taught how to accept my faults and deal with them. After every speech, you get judged by another professional fellow who knows more than you do. He is not necessarily older, sometimes, they are younger guys who judge you but they sure do have experience. However, since you want to improve, you should be willing to accept your faults and work on them. Forget it about who says the comment, focus on the comment itself and work hard to exchange it with a better positive one.
Our problem as Arabs is that we never accept criticism; we always take it personal especially if it comes from the younger generation. I know people who lost fortunes because they didn’t want to listen to younger guys, they assume they know everything and we are nothing but day-dreamers. Every time has its people; your old policy doesn’t work out anymore it’s time to update your level of thinking and change the whole box instead of just thinking out the box.
On the other hand, those who always compliment and mention the good points even if it’s all mere lies end up on the good side with the decision makers and responsible people. I wonder how you can approach a liar; it’s a big mess in here!
Usually, I find it a bit difficult to ask someone who’s younger but I’ve devoted myself to keep improving and learning. Everyone in this world has at least one new thing to teach me. You definitely want your business to expand, open up other branches and give franchises, that’ll need new ideas and thoughts to be done, that’ll need criticism because it’s another way of learning. And remember, the moment we stop learning, we stop growing.